The loneliness and happiness of integrity

The late contemplative, recovering alcoholic and uniquely human being Brennan Manning made this insightful statement about ‘standing alone’:

“The poverty of uniqueness is the call of Jesus to stand utterly alone when the only alternative is to cut a deal at the price of one’s integrity. It is a lonely yes to the whispers of our true self, a clinging to our core identity when companionship and community support are withheld. It is a courageous determination to make unpopular decisions that are expressive of the truth of who we are – not of who we think we should be or whom someone else wants us to be. It is trusting enough in Jesus to make mistakes and believing enough that his life will still pulse within us. It is the unarticulated, gut-wrenching yielding of our true self to the poverty of our own unique, mysterious personality.

In a word, standing on our own two feet is often a heroic act of love”.

standing alone

LORD, who may dwell in your sanctuary?

Who may live on your holy hill?

He whose walk is blameless

and who does what is righteous,

who speaks the truth from his heart.

Psalm 15:1-2


It is this courageous integrity that is unpopular

when honesty means disagreement;

yet which society yearns for in its leaders and role models;

that the Bible and Jesus commend so highly…and frequently;

but can be so elusive in ourselves and others;

and to which I aspire and cling,

inevitably evoking mixed responses:

Integrity that I have nevertheless chosen not to regret

as I stand in the security and happiness

of my Father’s grace.


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3 thoughts on “The loneliness and happiness of integrity

  1. Tricia says:

    love the rawness of your words Roger …
    You walk your talk .
    May you know the peace that passes understanding even when your integrity takes you into lonely spaces ..

  2. […] Hold on to integrity, no matter […]

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